It’s your heartbeat thumping in your chest, waking up at 3 am in a state of panic, and that uneasy feeling as you go through your day. It’s financial stress. It’s feeling worried about your finances, and like you’re the only one who is having this experience.
You look around at friends and colleagues and think that they have it all figured out. One just had a 6 figure launch, the other is rapidly expanding her team, and meanwhile, you’re scrolling Instagram and seeing all the vacations, cute outfits, and successful businesses, wondering why you can’t have that life.
How is it that you’re the only one with money stress, while everyone else is out there living their best life? Who can you talk to about this without feeling judged?
I get that financial stress feels very lonely, but I have a little secret for you. Everyone has financial stress. The image that is projected to the outside world is not the full picture. When I dig deeper with clients, I see that we all have the same worries and fears.
Everyone is stressed about practical things like paying down debt, saving and investing, and learning the language of money.
Everyone struggles with their money mindset and feels worried and fearful at times. No one truly has it all figured out 100% of the time. New challenges and roadblocks constantly come up in life, and it’s the same way with money. You overcome an obstacle, then a new one comes up. It’s part of the journey.
There’s so much shame and fear of judgment around money that many people don’t open up about what’s really going on beneath the surface. So of course you’re going to think that everyone else has it all figured out, and you’re the only one with concerns and stress. When really, the opposite is true. We all experience stress.
One may be concerned about investing, while the other is concerned about paying down debt. One may run a million-dollar business, while the other is just starting out. The numbers and issues may vary, but the feelings are the same.
Why do I tell you this? To show you that you’re not alone. You are not the only one who feels fears, anxieties, and overwhelm from time to time. That’s a completely normal way to feel about your finances.
Don’t beat yourself up. Give yourself grace and space to feel this way.
When you’re ready, you can work through those feelings and create a money mindset that feels better to you.
You can release shame, release fears, and learn how to cope with your stress. There are tools that you can use when you find yourself in a negative state to get yourself back on track and feeling good.
If you want to learn about tools and resources that can help or have a place to talk it through, I will hold that space for you in a judgment-free zone.
You can schedule a free money chat with me to vent, let it all out, and brainstorm solutions to move forward.