Dear Journal,

Change is hard.  A lot of people absolutely hate change, and I feel like it’s easy to get stuck in a situation because of the fears and anxieties that come along with change.  

Have you ever felt like you wanted to make a change, but for whatever reason, felt stuck in moving forward?  I know I have. Sometimes it’s not just my mindset that needs some work, but also the “know-how” of the practical steps to take.

I don’t mind change – as long as it’s going to get me closer to what I want.  After all, it’s about growing and evolving, right?! There have also been times when I’ve resisted change.  I have to gut check myself and figure out if I’m resisting due to fear, or if I’m resisting because it’s a change that I actually don’t want to make.

Entrepreneurship tends to force change, so I’m learning to accept the things that are out of my control.  I’m in the midst of a transition right now, which means a lot of change. I am changing the way I work with clients, the types of clients that I work with, and the way that my business has been running comfortably for 5 years.

Even though I had success in that business, it was no longer fulfilling me. I am proud of myself for recognizing that and having the courage to take action towards what I want.

There’s a lot of really great things happening with this transition, but with changes in business (or life) comes changes in finances.

I am going from an established client base and steady income stream, to kinda starting over.  While this transition will allow me to create a business that really fills me up and allows me to create more time and wealth for my personal life, the money part is hard.

You see, I have this mindset thing I’m working on, where I equate success with money. Yet I make it really hard on myself by setting financial goals that are so big and unrealistic for the time period I’m looking at (my goals aren’t SMART enough).

So when I inevitability don’t hit the unrealistic financial goal I set, it’s not pretty. I go into a state of lack – there’s not enough money or clients. I question and doubt everything I’ve done up to that point. I say some really mean things to myself.

Even if I’ve had a good month and done some really great things – grown my business and client base, structured things to be the way I want them to be, etc, if I miss the huge financial goal I set, none of that seems to matter.

Keeping sane ain’t easy sista! Can you recall a time of transition and how that felt?

So how do I work through this? Well, the first step was gaining awareness. Recognizing those negative thoughts, fears, and anxieties that were holding me back.

Then I have to be really kind to myself. Treat myself the way I would treat a client or a friend. I have to objectively look at the situation, recognize all of the amazing progress I’ve made so far, and acknowledge where I am from a place of grace and kindness.

I think it’s important to consider value beyond financial. Some changes I’ve made haven’t brought direct financial returns, but they have made my life easier. I’m left feeling empowered and in control. Happier and lighter. Those things will lead to a financial return, because a happy and healthy life and business creates financial abundance.

I also have to remember that I’m not superwoman. I actually don’t have enough time in the day, or money to invest, to grow at the pace I’m setting for myself right now, and that’s okay!  It’s also okay to focus on 1 thing at a time. It’s actually better because then I actually do that 1 thing, as opposed to half doing a bunch of things.

There’s no guilt or shame or judgements in where I am right now. It’s actually really great that I do have an awareness of where I am, and where I want to go. That can really help me take action in a way that feels good and gets me what I want.

So keeping sane? My thoughts…

Understand where I am today, without judgements. Be grateful for all of the amazing things that have already happened. Stay excited for future possibilities. Enjoy the journey of exploring, learning, and figuring it out along the way. Recognize my value as a human, not a number in a bank account.

Practice self care and live my life as a human being and a business women. Take it one day at a time. Simplify and focus. Show up ready to serve and help others. Give, give, give. TRUST the dang process. It will all work out. Know that I am smart enough and capable to do this thing, and that it’s not going to happen overnight and that’s okay! Have fun, laugh, connect, and find joy in the little things.

This is a journey and change is inevitable. I need to embrace the change and lean into it. Put my ego aside and show up as my authentic self.

That’s what this looks like for me, for you, it may look different.  We’re all unique, and I love that! Think about how you can keep yourself in a positive mindset as you go through a transition or a change.

Here’s to keeping sane!